My Time with Marjorie
By Lorelle A. Miller
I want to take a moment to remember a recent encounter with
a woman named Marjorie, an eloquent 94 years old who attended several of my art
classes at Summerhill Villa.
Marjorie came to my class with the intention of getting back
to art, which she had been away from for years. She was unsure as to whether
she would be able to
do the work she once loved.
We had an immediate rapport. I
realized that this was a very special gift to have her in my class and witness her process as she made her way back to painting. Marjorie did not let her physical restrictions hinder her desire, she worked with an
oxygen tube attached to her nose, a patch over her left eye, which was going
blind, headaches, and only wheel chair access, none of this stopped her.
She wanted to do a painting of her great grandson, and so we
got to work. I helped get her started on the drawing, which she took to right
away. She scrutinized every angle of her drawing as well as developed answers
to certain compositional challenges. Her mind was sharp and her goal clear.
Once I worried as I saw her doze off for a bit, unsure myself as to what might
be happening. I discreetly went to find some help, only to find her awake and
drawing again by the time I had returned.
Marjorie finished the drawing and was ready to start
painting. She was a bit hesitant, saying that she did not know if she could do
this anymore. I reassured her once more that I would be there and help her; I
told her “we can do this!”, she smiled.
I helped her with her
paint mixtures and she dove in. Painting intently for 2 hours at a time. She
told me by the end of the last session we were together that she had started
out with a headache and by the time the class was over and her great grandson’s
painting was beginning to emerge, her headache was gone. “It just shows me that
it is emotional” she exclaimed. She had made amazing progress; I could detect her
skill coming through. I helped her pack up and carefully put away her painting
for the next session. We said our goodbyes and she graciously thanked me.
I just remembered that Marjorie had been wheeled into my
class at the very first time when I was lecturing about some very complicated
color concepts. Her care-taker said she
wanted to hear the lecture and she found it very interesting. As I think back I
remember being sort of caught off guard by the very elderly woman seated so
close to me so she could hear and see what I was talking about.
Marjorie missed class one day and I wondered. I noticed her
absence the next class and then her daughter came in. Her mother had died the night before. Her
daughter Pam was there to tell me how much she appreciated me working with her
mom, and that this class had made a big difference in her stay at
Summerhill. I knew our time together was
special from the first time we worked together.
It is not every day that you get a journey like this one at
the end of someone’s life. I was so touched by all this I wanted to write about
it so I never forget these precious hours.
I remember telling Marjorie that with any luck I will live
as long as she had and still be able to do my work, the work I have loved from
the very beginning. To me this great lady stood as a symbol of hope for all of us
in the class, that art can live with us and help us up to our last breath. We
can continue to express, communicate and enjoy our process as long as we
desire.
Thank you Marjorie for the time we shared and for the gifts
we exchanged. It was a short, but remarkable journey.
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1 comment:
When you connect with those over 90 in anything and have a regular time together each week they teach you something. It stays with you long after they are gone, inspiring, loving and caring feelings between you silently emerge from them to you. Your experience will serve to see you through all the times you are thinking this is a struggle. Remembering her energy and love of Art has changed your prospective, that's why I love all my friend's over 90.
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